enhance: [10kcp] Reduce memory usage of BF in DataNode and QueryNode

[bigsheeper]

1. DataNode: Skip generating BF during the insert phase (BF will be regenerated during the sync phase).
2. QueryNode: Skip generating or maintaining BF for growing segments; deletion checks will be handled in the segcore.

issue: #37630

pr: #38129

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